What's anneffective way to impose a sort of "limit" or barrier on people you know without being rude or obvious about it?

What's anneffective way to impose a sort of "limit" or barrier on people you know without being rude or obvious about it?
I noticed human relationships kind of get muddy once people get more familiar, like, at first it's usually more polite, but as they gain familiarity with you, they will start bantering or doing jokes. I understand this is "normal" but it bothers me and I don't want to drop social activities because of that. So far my way of doing it is either fake it (banter back, laugh) but that stresses me out a bit, since I'm forcing and faking it, or just remain silent and ignore (which them prompts the following "anon are you ok? Something happening to You?" And I know I could answer to that by saying "yeah I don't like your jokes" but that would be seen as rude. I know I can be rude and just DGAF but I'd prefer a less confrontational solution, as I don't think something like this deserves actual confrontation, also most people love banter, so it's just me who doesn't fit, but as I said, don't want to drop the activities.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    ironically, say little to nothing.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      That triggers them asking if I'm ok.
      I know I can opt to be the "silent" type but unlike the memes, being a silent guy isn't seen as mysterious cool thing (unless you look like Keane Reeves idk), it just signals people that you're shy/weak. I don't want to be seen as weak or shy but I also don't want to get tired of people and quitting activities because of that.
      I can fake it, and I'm pretty good at it too, but I'm just wondering if there's a way to put a barrier on people without having to be obvious about it like ignoring them or confrontng them.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Speech fasts.

        You'll be able to keep silent without getting triggered yourself as soon, if you have practice with speech fasts.

        And another one, navigate by "who's more joyful to be around". Bar feels sad from the outside? Maybe just look for one with better "atmosphere". "Read the room."

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just be the silent guy. If they ask, just say it's ok.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Been like that most of my life, that only makes life harder, as people get weird around you. Also that doesn't even warrant that it will stop the banter, some guys even get more bully when you're silent.
      As I said, I can fake it and pretend to be like them, "howling like the wolves", but it's annoying and I wish I didn't need to do that - sadly, it works and it has gave me results (more respect among peers, more success with women, etc).
      I was wondering if there's some sort of paranormal way to solve this. Some lucky charm, some magic words, anything that I can try to make them stop bothering me with their unfunny banter shit without me having to be rude about it.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >paranormal way
        The paranormal way is to work on yourself, resist peer pressure, find real friends. You can attract actual thinking people using LoA or whatever it's called, but still doesn't change the fact that you gotta work on your character and stop being a pussy. Make others respect you.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I have been working on myself for years, went from being a hikkikomori neet blob to a working man and doing martial arts - definitely can resist peer pressure and as I said, a lot of people even see me as a sort of Chad stereotype. Don't think I'm seen as a pussy, but again, part of this is because I force myself into bantering back, but I don't enjoy that specific aspect of socializing. I understand it's a sort of way to shit-test and that it's almost unavoidable if you want to function in natural human society, especially as a man, that's why I ask the paranormal board, as there doesn't seem to be a normal fix to this.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Curse them. When they start joking and bragging about immoral sexual behaviors and other evil things they do. Silently curse them. They WILL suffer, and that suffering will make them stop being such a douchebag.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >some guys even get more bully when you're silent.
        100% this. Insecure people project onto quiet people the most and thus see them as threats. Thats why silent kids that dont bother anybody get bullied the most but it also happens with adults a lot. I'm a naturally introverted person and insecure homosexuals are always hostile towards me for no reason.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Autism

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe, but as I said I'm pretty good ar faking being normal, to the point some people think I'm a chad-like, they just don't know how I feel inside.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Read:

        Maybe, but as I said I'm pretty good ar faking being normal, to the point some people think I'm a chad-like, they just don't know how I feel inside.

        https://i.imgur.com/7zxPhoY.gif

        Curse them. When they start joking and bragging about immoral sexual behaviors and other evil things they do. Silently curse them. They WILL suffer, and that suffering will make them stop being such a douchebag.

        I don't know how to "curse" people and also I don't want any bad karma for myself. I just want to avoid the banter aspect of socializing, everything else is fine.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          If you curse an evil person your karma actually improves, just don't curse people for doing good things and you'll be fine. There is no set way to curse, it is the intent of having someone pay for their evil actions.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      What OP said resonates with me

      Is it really autism bros?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        "Austism" like all mental illness labels, are just a way for aggressive psychopaths like yourself to dismiss higher cognitive functional arguments because you are too low IQ to comprehend anything other than sex and violence.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        the people insisting on the validity of their ego to the point they neglect understanding people and approaching them with respect of their boundaries are probably the socially inept autistic ones here
        imagine your whole identity relying on your boomerisms, toxic outdated bs and the few celebrity names or whoever else you parrot or think is important and thinking of others as autistic, socially inept and unadjusted to reality
        like wtf these people are morons dude

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >like wtf these people are morons dude
          It's because they have an IQ of around 80-90. They LITERALLY cannot comprehend anything other than what they are TOLD to believe from someone that ASSUMES a position of AUTHORITY.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            ive seen plenty of smart people, incl. in the school i was in that had people from even the highest level of education, act like complete morons and say absolute stupid shit
            iq is another one of those things ironically
            a test designed by some idiots judging you according to their fricked up idea of intelligence and if you dont agree your an idiot
            meanwhile some of the people with the highest scores on those tests question the validity and accuracy of its measurements

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I've seen plenty of smart people, incl. in the school i was in that had people from even the highest level of education, act like complete morons and say absolute stupid shit

            That's because they aren't actually smart. The school system is based on a foundation of lies.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >knowing how to do math vs understanding what math is
            basically youre dealing with a bunch of deranged trained monkeys

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >basically youre dealing with a bunch of deranged trained monkeys
            OH trust me, I know.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >trust
            unnecessary
            when you know you know

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Reductionist challenge accepted
            I know.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >know
            >kno
            >no

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Try asking 8kun if its still alive

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Why them specifically?
      Also, to add, suddenly turning silent would be weird because they know another me, so it'd be like suddenly changing my personality. Also I don't hate being social exactly, in fact, it's healthy, I can notice I get more motivated when I socialize. I just don't like the banter aspect of it. It's also mostly a male thing, girls don't banter as much and are generally more polite - most of the time.
      I do enjoy talking with other fellow males because it's like a feedback on masculine energy and of course I benefit from that, the problem is the humor part - I just find most people's humor outright bad and unfunny, but I don't feel like not laughing along because most of the times it's good-hearted. The problem starts when they start bantering and picking on me - it's all good, I just banter back and we all laugh, I just wish I had a way to entirely skip this part of socials while retaining all the good parts.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Their /x/ is somewhat more alive

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You gotta have a powerful and expanded aura to do that. Eat healthy and stop cooming and you’ll be able to control how people respond to you with your mind.be warned however if you’re not pure yourself than you will be corrupted with their energy as you try to weave it. The much more easier way is to just set up boundaries and let people know that you don’t like the jokes and banter and would rather keep the relationship lighthearted. I’ve had friends where we would shi talk all day and banter online in games and since than I’ve distanced myself as I feel it’s draining to make jokes of one or being joked on especially in this clown world. Now I have friends who never joke or bant and overall are good vibes and we support eachother. Choose your company wisely.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Good advice anon, thanks.
      Too bad it's a bit late to "set boundaries" now with the people I know, and I don't know where to find more respectful people.
      But yeah eating healthy and not fapping works, I should meditate but I'm too impatient for that, I need to start doing it.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Don't react at all if you don't enjoy the banter. How are people supposed to know what you don't like if you react the same way to everything? Ignore those people when they banter. They will change or leave.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Also if you are making jokes but you don't like it when they do, that makes you a bad person

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        how about people not giving a shit abt making you feel bad telling you it's just a joke or you need to suck it up/stop whining vs them basically crying and screaming when you do it to them

        Don't react at all if you don't enjoy the banter. How are people supposed to know what you don't like if you react the same way to everything? Ignore those people when they banter. They will change or leave.

        bad advice
        ive seen people literally start to cry over this shit
        so apparently we have to all take and accept jokes but silence somehow goes too far for them
        and this happened in a location where nobody could just walk away from the job site
        so obviously that's not gonna work..
        even if you just tell them theyll keep bothering you to it eventually gets to that point they start to cry or hate you ig

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I don't really make jokes, at least not at another person's expense unless I have to banter back (and even then I don't go too harsh on them, not as harsh as they can go on me)
        It's nothing too bad though, it's not like they call me a fricking idiot, but they will make fun of me for my age, for example (I'm in my 30s, and most of the people in their early to mid 20s joke a lot about me being old). It's fine, it doesn't really hurt me, but some guys can get a bit too repetitive with the age thing to the point where I think "yeah dude you're made the exact same joke 10 times today", but if I tell them that it's not funny or that I'd prefer them not to joke about it, I will seems salty. The age thing is just an example, they joke about anything and all the time. Sometimes I'm not the target but a lot of the times I am, and I banter back but not as harsh as I could, because I'm not interested. I just reply because I don't want to be seen as a passive pussy who just takes it, but no I never start the banter, I'm very polite always.

        Familiarity breeds contempt. That being said, nothing wrong with banter BUT just don't tolerate any 'humor' that rubs you the wrong way. Shut them down immediately. That, or get stepped on by the serfs.

        The thing is, not tolerating humor that rubs me the wrong way is reacting in a way that will make me seem salty, like "oh, it REALLY bothers him then!", they will think that and then the banter can transform into bullying, which then might cause an actual IRL fight over a stupid thing. I prefer to just banter back in that case but It's prefer people to just be more polite from the get to, but again, yeah familiarity breeds contempt, it sucks.

        how about people not giving a shit abt making you feel bad telling you it's just a joke or you need to suck it up/stop whining vs them basically crying and screaming when you do it to them
        [...]
        bad advice
        ive seen people literally start to cry over this shit
        so apparently we have to all take and accept jokes but silence somehow goes too far for them
        and this happened in a location where nobody could just walk away from the job site
        so obviously that's not gonna work..
        even if you just tell them theyll keep bothering you to it eventually gets to that point they start to cry or hate you ig

        Yeah one of the reasons I can't really banter back too harsh is because, for example, they will make fun of me for being old, alright, it will happen to them eventually anyway, but some of them are Black or mestizo so I could make fun of that, in a banter way, but 1) I'm not interested 2) it'd probably get me into trouble

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Look anon if you're not prepared to either walk away or punch a Black person in the face, then you're just a punk ass b***h and it's no surprise you're being bullied. You must either enforce boundaries or get stepped on.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I won't walk away from my job or my hobbies, anon.
            >punch
            I can do that but the banter doesn't justify it. People would just say I'm a schizo for overreacting, and as I said, I don't get hurt by the banter. It's very silly stuff. I just think it's a hassle and would rather not have it, but it's part of normal human behavior. Nobody in my groups is free of it, everybody does it with everyone, except the girls, but between men, they all banter.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            just tell them theyre boring and banal and need to put in some effort
            if they get mad just say it's a joke
            these people are so insecure theyll feel attacked or addressed anyway

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Nah It'd be seen as salty.
            It's not easy to go against something that's so big, it'd be like being against saying Hello and Good bye, it's ingrained in our psyche. Except banter is something that happens once people get more familiar with each other, the initial period is more polite, I wish it could be like that always.
            As for banter itself, I'm sure there's psyxhological studies made about it. I personally think it's a mechanism to seek out potential rivals or enemies' weaknesses OR to fortify a fellow man's strenghts. For example, in old times, Warriors probably used some sort of banter to weed out the weak that would just be useless in battle. But I think, most of the times, banter is more of a mechanism to work around potential rivals and competition, hence the fact most banter is male.
            I was talking about this with a guy I consider quite smart, I told him about several situations and stuff, and for example, in the case of the young guys making fun of me for being old, he told me "they are envious of you because, despite being older, you are having more luck with girls and dating girls their own age, they see you as a menace. They will attack one of your only weak points, something you can't deny, which is your age". And I'm not sure if that's true, but could be. I stopped talking about my dates with them in case it generates envy.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            yeah i know people cant take criticism but thats kinda what makes it funny
            im definitely not holding down a job anytime soon tho so take it how you will

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            theyre just insecure and will try anything to pull you down
            the alternative would be akin to admitting they're the wrong and weird ones and we all know they're super normal right
            they're basically just a bunch of christians at this point with their culturally ingrained ideas of normalcy serving the position of holy doctrine

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Familiarity breeds contempt. That being said, nothing wrong with banter BUT just don't tolerate any 'humor' that rubs you the wrong way. Shut them down immediately. That, or get stepped on by the serfs.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Race realism. Everyone wants to rape you because you are a white girl. Remember that.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There's nothing you can do. You just need better friends. They do exist.

    It's not exactly autism. Just that most people are conditioned through dualism and competition so you must always interact with their egoic filter. Like when people 'tease' each other, they think its normal (not that they are conditioned to do it or do it because of heirarchal thinking). If it's any consolation, you can find people not like this in very random places. White trash in particular.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >You just need better friends
      To clarify, I don't even consider them my friends. It's mostly co-workers or people I do activities/hobbies with.
      And I'm certain these kind of people are the majority so there's no way to escape it, I won't change work or hobby place just because of that, and also it wouldn't even work anyway because if I do change places, new people are going to be shit.
      Yes, I did find a few people who are respectful and polite, but they are a minority.

      What OP said resonates with me

      Is it really autism bros?

      I don't think it's autism, but probably some sort of social inadaptation since apparently most people enjoy banter, unless secretly nobody does? Who knows.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Banter is solidarity for evil. Everyone knows that evil is wrong but if a bunch of people joke and laugh about it they feel like it's okay to do. It's the same "story" as the fallen angels.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        They dont 'enjoy' banter, anon. They don't have the balls to shut it down.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >o

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >(

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You failed. lol

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          yes no eyes
          that is correct

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You could literally just explain this to people who ask if you're okay, you could just tell them that you don't like to banter but that you do like to hang around and vibe with people - you just don't like to engage in small talk. That's totally normal and there are several friends like that in my friend group that just like to hear us talk amongst each other and play games with us, but they don't speak much themselves because they don't like to talk.

    You're fine, you're normal. This is totally normal behavior, you're just not a talker.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      i tried this
      and it works
      until theres someone there who isn't a socially inept moron you can just talk to
      now they suddenly feel personally attacked as if every little thing is about them

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      i tried this
      and it works
      until theres someone there who isn't a socially inept moron you can just talk to
      now they suddenly feel personally attacked as if every little thing is about them

      like why tf do you need ever single person to like you
      just stfu for once jesus christ

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