Relationship with the dead?

My partner died a little while ago and I refuse to let go. I visit the grave as often as I can living so far away. I sob and ache for them.

Do you think it's possible to have a relationship with someone after they've died? I refuse to let go.

I wrote this little comic. (Not an artist)

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm sorry for your loss. Permit yourself to grieve, you will move on when you are ready, don't try to force anything.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    > I refuse to let go

    Get help! The fact you’re on /x trying to figure out how to communicate with the dead is a sign you really need professional help

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This. Go to a krishna temple even and talk to some1

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's true you don't need to go through this all alone and help is out there.

    You should probably take an extended vacation from your daily obligations.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      it's my fault he's dead. He killed himself after we had an argument

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Were you always hard on him? Or was he prone to melancholy.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          both

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            007. That sucks, it is what it is though, even though that person isn’t with you, they will always be with you regardless of who you ultimately end up with. Life honestly never gets easier even as you take your leave from so many after a lifetime because death is a fact of life, eventually you’ll accept this.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You’ll eventually just get used to it although that feeling will always remain.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Anon I hope you have been told this a lot already. But it’s not your fault. No one can force another to take their own life. I can’t even fathom how you feel … but please do not blame that on yourself. It is not your fault. It just isn’t.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Many things can happen in the instant of a moment that we will not realize until it is too late.

        Tell me something - do you have such grief over it because you look back on many memories and you focus on other times you may have mistreated the departed? If that is the case, you need to know that what happened was not your fault, it was something the deceased had likely decided some time prior, whatever argument that "caused" it was merely "the straw that broke the camels back". You need to accept what happened, and that acceptance coming from understanding that such a thing was likely inevitable, and from understanding how you could have been better.

        I don't know why, but if what I described is how you feel and what you're holding on to, I think I needed to write this for you to see.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          If i'd have been less angry at him he'd still be alive. I was angry because he kept doing drugs against my wishes. Then he went and took a bunch of methadone and killed himself the very night I begged him not to.

          I found him that morning, I couldn't fricking BELIEVE my eyes, couldn't believe what I was seeing. The love of my life, my soulmate, all my missing pieces, laying dead, cold, purple lipped and pale skinned before my eyes.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            My heart goes out to you. One day you will realize, as others have said, that it wasn't your fault. My father died an alcoholic. I helped my mom raise my nephew since he was in diapers. Going on a year since my nephew graduated early, skipping 12th grade. Heart breaking that his father never listened to us and only saw his son a few times throughout the years in between prison stints. His addictions always mattered more than his son. Dude always referred to me as his " brother in law". Maybe if he was around more he might have noticed i never returned the sentiment, as i never considered him family for obvious reasons. Hope you see what I'm getting at. As much as we want, some people never change. In time you will understand that you deserve better. Not doubting his love for you, but this was an eventuality, I'm sorry to say. I say this with tears in my eyes. About 12 hours ago, my brother called to tell me that he went ahead and put his 2 year old cat to sleep. He was so shy and the sweetest little guy ever. His health fell off a cliff in less than two weeks. Life just doesn't make much sense sometimes.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Was it an eventuality? I could have stopped him. If I'd have been nicer, stopped admonishing him for taking drugs. I think he'd have lived.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Woulda shoulda coulda

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I will never exit the bargaining phase

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Come on anon, it really isn't your fault - all us humans have agency and make individual decisions....including really fricked up ones.

  4. 1 month ago
    Reverseunocard

    The drawings so fricking gay and cringe

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      That's what the >im not an artist< disclaimer is there for, genius.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >I wrote this little comic.
    cringe. next time use AI

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Frick you, butthole.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    its not your fault, he had issues and you couldn't help him, still vist his grave and talk there, im sure his soul will hear yours, while you must move on its alright to wait years before, my grandmother waited decades before she found another

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    there is a film about this called IRREPLACEABLE YOU, would not recommend

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You can bring his spirit back, tons of things out there, his body is gone though. Warning though he probably doesn't wanna be brought back, I'd just be aware he's sitting in the underworld somewhere most likely probably getting eaten by a giant spider, humans hate it down there. He may or may not be angry though with u bringing him back.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    In our reality there is reincarnation, your partner will reincarnate and you continue crying for him. You must let it go. Furthermore, surely your mission in this life and that of your ex-partner is to work with attachments.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      One time I read that reincarnation revolves around groups of souls so someone you met now might reappear next life.
      Or perhaps we're just repeating the same story over and over again. Life at the beginning of 21st century, America. Maybe something changed, maybe something didn't.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Lol moron. They're dead. They're not coming back.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're making a cult around death at that point and not a relationship with a person you can exchange personal expressions with in any proper manner, so no

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You know the rule
    breasts or gtfo

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    They'll always be part of you. You'll never lose them, even if you do let go.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Do meditation. Maybe it's your ego that's clinging to the lost person. I'm sorry if that sounds like a dick thing to say, but you have to let go. You're more than your body.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I feel like I botched telling his family. How am I supposed to tell a Mother her baby is dead?

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    No one here can absolve you of your guilt
    Go find a priest or a therapist

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Do you think it's possible to have a relationship with someone after they've died? I refuse to let go.
    Yes. You can attempt to communicate or receive messages from them in a trance state. Easiest method is to attempt communication or receive communication in an in-between state of being awake and asleep. Practice for awhile and you can make contact; just be careful of deception, some spirit may attempt to impersonate them.

    Before you try any of that though, you should do the difficult work of being calm with what has happened and get accustom to the fact they wont be materially present in your life for the time being. It will be much harder to communicate with them if you are too emotional, doesn't mean you can't get emotional, but you just need to have gotten used to what has happened.

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I want to be dead. I feel compelled to his grave so often because half of my is in there.

    • 1 month ago
      WhoDat

      >Half of my is in there
      Wat? Your self? Where is it? I think he took your 'self' right out of the sentence

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