Question for fellow Catholics (or my Orthobros)

I converted to Catholicism a few years ago as an adult (early 30s) because I became totally convinced that it's true. And while I'm still convinced intellectually, I've been struggling lately because things aren't really going how I would expect them to go in terms of trying to live a Christian life and grow in holiness and whatnot.
I had been sexually active and also used porn regularly my whole life before my conversion (started using porn when I was around 12 and having sex around 19) but when I converted a few years ago I knew I needed to stop. Quitting sex was easy, but quitting porn has proved to be pretty much impossible because I've come to realize I basically use it as an escape from reality and from negative feelings like anxiety, stress, fear, depression, etc. and nothing else that I try to replace it with works.
For a long time I was simply going to confession before every Mass so that I could receive the Eucharist, but this past year or so I think I've just gotten tired of trying, I feel exhausted of spinning my wheels with this, praying consistently for God to help me overcome this, asking Saints and our Blessed Mother for their intercession all the time, praying all kinds of different prayers. Yet I've made basically no progress, and Divine help never seems to come. I'm often in the midst of viewing porn and I have a moment of clarity and beg God to help me not go through with it, to give me the grace I need to stop, but He doesn't.
I just don't know how to make sense of it. Doesn't God want me to overcome this addiction? If He does, why isn't He helping me? I know God often allows us to suffer for various reasons, and Saints have undergone much worse suffering than this, but this seems different because I'm not a good/holy person who's suffering, I'm committing a grave sin. But I can't stop. I've been trying so hard for years and I can't fricking do it on my own, I know I need God's help, but why won't He help me?

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  1. 2 months ago

    >I don’t like the way I live. I am weak. WHY WONT SOMEONE SAVE ME?
    This is how a child thinks. Fatherless behavior. Nobody can change you except yourself, what is wrong with you boy

    • 2 months ago

      We literally cannot save ourselves, and if you haven't yet had that realization you're either a child or an idiot.

      • 2 months ago

        Well, nobody's going to do that for ourselves, exactly (except paramedics and firefighters in most cases where it applies).

  2. 2 months ago

    God isn’t real dumbass. I prescribe you 10 paulogia videos to get unbrainwashed.

    Jerk off freely. Yahweh is a genocidal maniac, had a wife named asherah.

  3. 2 months ago

    God's plan for you doesn't involve a freebie. You were made to struggle, but your struggle is for a reason, and your struggle isn't alone. God is with you; In your highest and in your depraved lowest.

    So you take a step towards him in the midst of things. Excellent. God takes two towards you, but because of where you're calling from, you're more than three steps apart. Take a few more steps towards him in your darkness, and his light will come even closer. The path you have to walk to touch grace is part of God's plan for you.
    Trust in providence.

  4. 2 months ago
    Follower of Christ

    I understand your struggle brother. This journey is not only going to be about your addiction, but rather about the way you live your life.

    In order for you to overcome your addiction you would have to become more like Christ Himself, in all aspects of your life. Jesus said He was the Way: The Way you live your life. Brother I recommend you start to slowly work towards being more Christ like; that will solve the problem you are dealing with. Here are some suggestions on what you could do:

    Read your Bible daily, making a habit out of this could help you a lot. Work on not gossiping, cursing, complaining. Consider going to Church multiple days a week. Start fasting more often. Also don't beat yourself up after you have sinned, that could also cause you to sin again.

    This is going to be your journey, so you will have to decide on when you are going to take the next step. I especially recommend you look into fasting, fasting will help you a lot with your addiction.

    God Bless you brother, good luck.

  5. 2 months ago

    God granted you the strength to quit on your own accord if you want so, but he won't condemn you to hell if you won't.
    He accepts that humanity is full of sin.

    We are weak, fragile and often lost. Through the Lord we can find the way. I recommend that you seek out other activities to fill the time you would otherwise spend on porn. Go meditate, spend time in nature, read the Bible.

  6. 2 months ago

    God is constantly trying to turn everyone away from sin, but His grace requires cooperation which you are too weak to accept, as this thread attests to. I've struggled long and hard without progress too, but I would never have made a whiny thread like this blaming others (including God) for my own evil.

  7. 2 months ago

    I'm not a christian so you can dismiss my post right away, otherwise, give this a thought, the Bhagavad-Gita explains it like this, in the process of coming to the material world, your soul has been separated into many dualities, such as the duality of man and woman, your eternal soul is whole and has both man and women within it, this is why we feel a never ending crave, this is why we never feel whole, this is what the bible meant by "worshiping false gods", it means to follow human cravings that can never be fully satisfied because our very soul is divided. When you meditate, you reach a deep state of mind in which you can sort of feel that connection to the soul which exists out of time that is whole. so, tldr, meditate, meditate a lot, it is proven that meditation does shit to your brain that eventually overwrites addiction, if you want to look that up.
    >I've been struggling lately because things aren't really going how I would expect them to go
    you don't get to "expect" things when you walk the path of enlightenment. enlightenment is when you surrender to god which is within you, so, it's not like an ego death, but kind of. The point is, having expectations tampers with the divine process

  8. 2 months ago

    I gave up rubbing one out for lent. It's going well. It seems like a venial sin. Maybe do it a little less. Once twice a week.idk your probably fine. Uhhh...dont know if this helps but this you tube christian said you don't give up your sin then recieve the spirits help. On the contrary you walk with the spirit and it frees you from sin. So vice versa. Flesh versus spirit sermon. Just repent and you'll be forgiven.

  9. 2 months ago

    Jesus implored us to love. And that love includes yourself anon. Look at yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you deeply. Like a parent. A sibling. A partner. Or as God does. That love that persists in the midst of your failures and sin. When you begin to learn to learn to love yourself you will begin to learn to love others. Which is what Jesus really wants. Not adherence to empty rituals

  10. 2 months ago

    maybe God is answering your prayers by revealing to you the path you have to walk. Instead of wondering why God won't move your feet FOR you, maybe take a leap of faith and move your feet, trusting that God will lead you to good places when you do

  11. 2 months ago

    Imagine if you were born in the early 20th century, with all the wars and conscription. If you did, avoiding to kill a human being would have been a lot harder that it is for you know. Porn has never been so easy to access so there's nothing trivial about your hardship.
    Be patient with yourself, remember that even saint sinned, Saint Augustine for instance, he even wrote a book about it.

  12. 2 months ago

    The root of your problem is really masturbation. Having said that I must say, being a catholic by birth myself, I don´t understand why the Catholic church puts so much emphasis on the eucharist on a daily basis, considering that, according to the same church´s commandments, you really only need to confess and receive the communion once a year, during Easter time.

  13. 2 months ago

    >posting on /x/

  14. 2 months ago

    1. Put your phone away in another room at night. You will sleep better and be less tempted.

    2. Create something worthwile. Sculpt, paint, write music, create literature, etc.

    3. Increase your education. Learn another language. Teach yourself rhetoric. Learn the classics.

    In short get your mind addicted to creating so the only interesting form of sex is impregnation and procreation.

  15. 2 months ago

    why the frick u chose catholic
    does the bible anywhere say u should worship a rich guy living in his own state (pope)
    gosh i cant
    all their rituals
    u r in a deathcult

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