Killing love/desire inside yourself

I feel intense passion for a person who wants nothing to do with me. “Love spells” are bullshit, and even if they existed would be horrific. I’m not looking to force something that should be natural. But I want to know what techniques are possible for killing that desire within yourself, given that time itself isn’t doing the job. Self-hypnosis? Some sort of prayer?

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  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Easy, sit down, close your eyes and picture them taking a fat difficult sweaty shit while they eat pudding. Do it once a day, dedicate 15 minutes to it.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Essentially a very visceral form of self hypnosis then.

      Find some gainful task to fulfill yourself with. Throw yourself into a hobby or work so that you have no more time to dwell on that which you cannot have. This is why men tend to get in better shape after a bad breakup.

      I wouldn’t have come to /x/ if this was working. I’m sure it does work for some people but I’m looking for more otherworldly opinions on the nature of the situation.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        fair enough, best of luck to you.

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Find some gainful task to fulfill yourself with. Throw yourself into a hobby or work so that you have no more time to dwell on that which you cannot have. This is why men tend to get in better shape after a bad breakup.

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Try neuro-linguistic programming:
    >get comfy and close your eyes
    >imagine you're in an empty cinema, front row, centre
    >the movie playing is of you, when you were most affected by this emotion
    >make the image slowly shrink, and distort
    >make the sound and colours fade
    >the image shrinks on the screen until it's just a dot of light, which disappears
    >the lights come up in the cinema and you get up and walk out
    When you feel this exercise take effect, press your thumb and third finger together. Release when the exercise stops taking effect. Repeat this enough and you'll be able to trigger the effect just by pressing thumb and finger together.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This lines up with some of the self-hypnosis techniques I've been trying so I will probably try it out.

      I would suggest the way of personal intellectual understanding, as in dig really deep on why you feel attracted, what does the other person represent to you and do you think what lack in what the person represents, is your desire ego based or is there more to it, the deeper you dig, I guarantee, that most probably you will find that we all simply crave to be loved, and that love can very well just come from yourself, now saying these words probably won't mean much to you, but like I said if you do the digging for yourself you might come to experience it, and this would calm the desire

      Part of the immense attraction is a sense of shared anguish over similar topics, as well as a significant overlap in life experiences, which makes me think this may just be a projection of me attempting to love myself. You might be onto something.

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I don't recommend making fresh n fit and andrew tate videos part of your daily life but some level of redpill awareness is necessary to survive in this world. There's nothing particularly spiritual about it you just need to come to terms with the reality that if this (I'm presuming female) is even marginally attractive she has infinite options and you therefor aren't important to her and it's mental illness to be fixating on it. Also if you actually got what you wanted there is a 95% chance it wouldn't be what you think it is and would end in severe pain

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      what does infinite options really mean when most men are bad options? take the whitepill and become one of the good options.

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If she wants nothing to do with you then how did you develop a passion for her? I mean, you must have had the opportunity to get to know her at some point. Or are we talking about an ex-girlfriend? I know this isn't an answer to your question, but I think the question itself has to be clarified with more information.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      It's a friend who I have confided in many times, who has made it clear she does not reciprocate beyond being acquaintances.

      I don't recommend making fresh n fit and andrew tate videos part of your daily life but some level of redpill awareness is necessary to survive in this world. There's nothing particularly spiritual about it you just need to come to terms with the reality that if this (I'm presuming female) is even marginally attractive she has infinite options and you therefor aren't important to her and it's mental illness to be fixating on it. Also if you actually got what you wanted there is a 95% chance it wouldn't be what you think it is and would end in severe pain

      I'm painfully aware of the fact that expectations in love are hardly ever met lol

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I had a best friend who we were always trustworthy with each other about everything. Then when I found out about how my circumcision was messed up as a child she distanced herself from me despite telling me to trust her when something bad happens to me. We were best friends for about 10 years. It doesn’t haunt me, my main problem is circumcision but it is a casualty from the war I have with my own body. It’s sad, but it isn’t the main problem I have in my life.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          That's a pretty cruel reason for her to distance herself from you, what was her reasoning?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            nta but she doesn't frick mangled wieners

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I get it if you can't be sexually compatible but that shouldn't mean you toss a decade of friendship in the bin

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Probably true, I don’t blame her or hold that against her. I wouldn’t want to be around a cursed person either.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Never was given an actual direct explanation. Then my birthday came and I told her how down it had me via text and she said I was gaslighting her. She hit me with a “I’m busy” and after that I just slid deeper into negativity and self hate. It really hit me out of nowhere because we knew each other for so long. Knew each other’s families and she even went as far as to say if she ever had a kid she would want to have it with me. She wrote her first name and my last name together. We were bonded pretty strongly. It felt like a timeline shift when I found out about my problem. I always felt like we’d be there for each other in some capacity. It still hurts if I focus on the topic but again it isn’t my main problem anymore. But yeah I’ll never forget that year, my father died, I discovered my body was disfigured permanently and I lost my best friend. Also my mother since then has been battling with alcoholism, and I have to be responsible for my brother and sister as a result my personal life has spiraled downward horribly. It feels like hell at the moment, I hope to make a difference and help depressed/suicidal people someday. It’s kind of the only people I relate to at the moment.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            God damn anon. I've also lost my dad and have an alcoholic mom, but that's a major whammy in one year. You're a lot stronger than me to have gotten through that.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You have my best wishes, life will throw a lot at you the older you get. Choose what to infuse your intention into. Choose carefully, you want to direct your intention into things that will make a difference. Plant seeds in fertile soil. Problems like the circumcision problem I found will never disappear, those are the hardest ones because no matter what I do I have to accept it. Everything else can pretty much be changed and cured or remedied. That one problem is the one that I have to live with knowing I didn’t cause it and I can’t reverse it. The best case scenario is having a son and sparing him the embarrassment and inferiority complex. Also dying is a potential solution but that’s not the best case scenario so it isn’t in the cards until I break the curse

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            It's easier to avoid thinking of giving up and dying knowing that your actions could spare others the same fate.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Indeed, thank you for the constructive words.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I would suggest the way of personal intellectual understanding, as in dig really deep on why you feel attracted, what does the other person represent to you and do you think what lack in what the person represents, is your desire ego based or is there more to it, the deeper you dig, I guarantee, that most probably you will find that we all simply crave to be loved, and that love can very well just come from yourself, now saying these words probably won't mean much to you, but like I said if you do the digging for yourself you might come to experience it, and this would calm the desire

  7. 2 weeks ago
    t. nobody

    See that it burns inside you. Feel the pain of it, then choose to let go of the thoughts. Be vigilant and in a few weeks you'll find they don't hurt so much. Just remember that your thoughts are like a flock of sheep and your consciousness is like their shepherd. You must convince them there is something more important to think about and put it in front of them.

  8. 2 weeks ago
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    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      what about it

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just give up, Knowing full well that it wasn't there for you that that feeling is Immanent, Abstruse, something that's below the boundaries of your ephemeral life that it becomes absurd.

    Degrade your hope for such thing, You know that you're yearning for it but you cannot touch it or shut it down because in reality you're actually really hoping to get a person and you don't want to shut that hope, It's very easy but we cannot do it because inside we really want it to happen, To hope is to be a human. But in reality life doesn't work that way, This isn't /x/ but i'll tell you that things like relationships are just vulgar and banal that they're not essential to life which is contradictory to the essentials of life, Being celibate is bad but also yearning for something that's out of boundaries is absurd, You just need to give up literally because it's easy to do.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This is not Blackpilling but it's absolute truth that life has shifted from your traditional Love and romance that used to be a long time ago, Frick it i've even met people who are 35+ that are still celibate, Fricking sad but in reality that's insanely cool because a person knows who he is and knows that something is just an illusion and chasing it is going to leave you in a maze where you gonna return to the same point you started in.

      Love is just bullshit, Females are there and that's all
      Do as this gentlemen

      Easy, sit down, close your eyes and picture them taking a fat difficult sweaty shit while they eat pudding. Do it once a day, dedicate 15 minutes to it.

      suggested

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >You just need to give up literally because it's easy to do.
      I disagree.
      I think that situations like this are confusing.
      One might feel inclined to hold on powerlessly, or you might want to give up on it (which is impossible.)
      The way to move forward is to view the situation, from the 3rd person with maturity.
      It's natural and healthy to feel heartbroken.
      No relationship is ever really through, not if both people are still alive.
      Let the rejection and feelings of inadequacy be an inspiration for personal growth.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >No relationship is ever really through, not if both people are still alive
        I would say there are actually two layers with this. Relationships first end when all "debts" are settled. They truly end irreparably when one party dies.
        As a very literal example of the first death, Ernest Seton's father showed up to his wedding and handed him a fully tallied bill at 6% interest of every expense that had gone towards raising him. Seton paid and never spoke to his father again. All relationships are a mutual series of debts, and to give them dollar amounts and fully calculate them with the intention of paying them back is an admission of a desire to fully terminate the relationship, since as long as one party is indebted in some part to the other, neither can ever fully leave the relationship.
        This is partly why I think the existence of something like venmo is partly anti-humanist, and probably a coordinated attempt to cheapen relationships. As soon as you can tabulate out the exact dollar sign value of everything you've given to your so called friends and demand immediate compensation, you've lost part of what being human is (the constant back and forth of iou's).

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >as long as one party is indebted in some part to the other, neither can ever fully leave the relationship.
          I like your insight, and I agree.
          What I would add to that is this: authenticity of a relationship requires debts to be settled, and then a mutual desire to remain in the relationship.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            The debts have to be settled and reformed consistently. The backs keep getting scratched as they continue to itch.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I'm not talking about relationship because that thing is just shallow, What i'm talking about is Generally Love as a whole, It's just whole sketchy. One must just give up acquiring such mundane thing because you could have great things in your life but you could just be blindfully avoiding them.
        Truth is find better things in life that are near you rather than Media pressurized facade of love

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          You view love as like the ball taken away from a child, and sometimes after rejection that really is the way it feels.
          But as adults, we all still have a child inside.
          Love is 2 children playing together, and making friends.

          Relationships never really end.. by that I mean that I'm still thinking about you know people from my childhood.
          I remember more every day.

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