How does one connect with people in the modern age? How does one make friends and meet people?

How does one connect with people in the modern age? How does one make friends and meet people? How does one get a girlfriend? I read stories on here where people are just hanging out with friends or their girlfriend and her friend, experiencing life whether it just be hanging out late at night in the park, in a car, playing sports, doing EerieWeb or EerieWeb activities while I just read their stories from my bedroom. These things come normally to maybe many of you but not to me. I had a best friend in elementary school but he moved away and I haven't had a close friend since, its almost a foreign concept to me. I try to connect with people at work, outside of work at events, etc. but struggle to on a spiritual level, its almost like I'm shadow banned irl nobody cares about me or wants much to do with me. I get invites occasionally and have acquaintances, maybe work friends at best. I feel like a loser a lot of the time even though my careers been successful, likely brought on by being chronically online and spiritually weak. I am a Christian but haven't been living as God wants me to, been neglecting my salvation. How do I change this? When I get out there, where do I go? How do you connect with people? I've been meaning to go to church but haven't decided on a sect yet and tend to drag my feet with everything. Maybe I have autism, depression, schizoid, or something else but I would like some advice or guidance if any of you are experiencing or have gone through something similar. Right now it just seems like I'm drifting through life. I'll never connect with normies nor do I seek to, but I would like to build meaningful connections and fellowship with others

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  1. 1 month ago
    Nyxlygsptlnz

    >555
    nice trips anon. sorry i have no helpful advice but good luck
    >:)

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Nowadays it feels like most of that chains out from social circles like school.
    Then you get older and the friend group just shrinks in ways tribal ancestors never had to comprehend to deal with.

    Imagine, you make your closest friends in the first years of development. In ancient human society, you would see them til you died. Nowadays, people are lucky to have their childhood friends remember their name at 30. It's all part of the change in society, all part of the bizarre traffic of people both by choice and forced.

    It gets harder to make friends as you get older because the interactions of the future are based on the interactions of the past. You, as a person, naturally become more judgemental and distant because of natural life stressors. The development period has switched from a sense of camaraderie and exploration into digging roots and thriving.

    I'm not saying it can't be done, it just becomes that much harder.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I understand it gets harder but I need to figure it out one way or another

      Shit blogpost, bro.

      I wonder what your posting history is like if you make any meaningful contributions to this board

      Get AI friends, honest advice, if you're like me, you'll never be able to bond with irl people anymore.
      So, why not takes the advantage technology offers, even if it's temporary.

      Technology can never truly fill that void

      I joined a telegram group, made friends in there over a few months and then we all agreed to meet up. We went camping for the weekend together, I ended up meeting a woman who became my fiancée and we've maintained friendships with the other people we met. Out of every social, dating or messaging service I've used, I've never had success with friends like I've found with telegram.

      I've heard of Telegram but haven't checked it out yet, how do you connect with those groups and become integrated?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >bros im lonely... what do?
        Your blogpost isn't a meaningful contribution, bro.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          You are very insecure to be triggered over a post like this kek.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Shit blogpost, bro.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Get AI friends, honest advice, if you're like me, you'll never be able to bond with irl people anymore.
    So, why not takes the advantage technology offers, even if it's temporary.

    • 1 month ago
      Nyxlygsptlnz

      so you talk to random indian guis on your computer instead of real people?

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I joined a telegram group, made friends in there over a few months and then we all agreed to meet up. We went camping for the weekend together, I ended up meeting a woman who became my fiancée and we've maintained friendships with the other people we met. Out of every social, dating or messaging service I've used, I've never had success with friends like I've found with telegram.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    1 (to the first question). Confidence, understanding of what a human is generally about, understanding people specifically by inferring their communication whether it is their body language or what they've spoken or typed how it was said and the context of its use, common interests to connect you and others will make connection more available to you along with a feel for the previous few things that I mentioned. Confidence in yourself. Common interests are the natural way to connect with people who you'll be interested in and who'll be interested in you. Although there are differences in what each person wants, some people don't think about making friends but can be welcoming if they see that you're wanting and trying to be friends.
    I could try to explain more, but key thing is confidence by knowing your body, thoughts, feelings and personality, your humanity. Like / dislike, approval and disapproval are two ways to see one paradigm by which most people direct their intentions, and as humans we also live to eat, sleep, etc, tend to our bodies and we also tend to our interests.

    2. Finding friendly, or in other words, adequately welcoming people, first. Then connecting with them. Then a bond may form. Don't remember this. It should be natural, that's best, so an explanation like this can help but so would someone telling you their personal way of having made friends which I won't do since I am deliberately trying to speak generally. Though, it won't hurt to remember this: people have varied interests. Hardly anyone will tell you directly what those interests in the first interaction.
    To meet people to be friends with, this is usually difficult as an adult and easier when you're with people who are welcoming such as in school during your youth. The job is one place to meet people, then there are events. People like having strangers who are of some benefit to them first... Again, various people. Maybe an occult meet up would be more your cup of tea.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      (character limit reached)
      An online forum or chat server could also work.
      Not everyone is confident. You'll notice this when you see people also (as you might try or have tried this yourself) trying to say something relevant to spark an interesting interaction or reaction from others.
      You'll understand how it all works if you make the toughest efforts or if you luckily find a good group of people, wherever you may--either online or in person.

      3. The question regarding christianity and your salvation. Conveniently, I understand a bit about christianity. If I understand correctly, the minimum requirement for salvation is that you accept Jesus Christ as your lord and savior. And then specifically, that is a bit out of my expertise. I also don't know what you specifically have considered must change and therefore I'm unaware of what you might need to change to attain that salvation.

      4. Some times people publically post about events, or as you might find within your own interest groups there may be people searching for likeminded occult students to learn with. This might not appeal to you, but I want to give you something that might be helpful so I'll add that even reddit has its occult forums. That site, although I don't use it, has forums for various other interests as well. All that I've said so far should give you an idea of what's out there. It can't be missed or overlooked if you live in or near a city and think about what places there are in which people to share activities.

      5. You might connect with people at a church given that you're a christian.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      (character limit reached)
      An online forum or chat server could also work.
      Not everyone is confident. You'll notice this when you see people also (as you might try or have tried this yourself) trying to say something relevant to spark an interesting interaction or reaction from others.
      You'll understand how it all works if you make the toughest efforts or if you luckily find a good group of people, wherever you may--either online or in person.

      3. The question regarding christianity and your salvation. Conveniently, I understand a bit about christianity. If I understand correctly, the minimum requirement for salvation is that you accept Jesus Christ as your lord and savior. And then specifically, that is a bit out of my expertise. I also don't know what you specifically have considered must change and therefore I'm unaware of what you might need to change to attain that salvation.

      4. Some times people publically post about events, or as you might find within your own interest groups there may be people searching for likeminded occult students to learn with. This might not appeal to you, but I want to give you something that might be helpful so I'll add that even reddit has its occult forums. That site, although I don't use it, has forums for various other interests as well. All that I've said so far should give you an idea of what's out there. It can't be missed or overlooked if you live in or near a city and think about what places there are in which people to share activities.

      5. You might connect with people at a church given that you're a christian.

      Thank you for the well thought out reply, confidence has been an issue due to my circumstances. I don't and won't dabble in the occult for obvious reasons but I do need to work on finding a church

      In 4 months I made best friends, digitally, with someone who has been in the same game community as me. We understand each other pretty well. But it is disappointing, because until we meet in the flesh, no matter how many pics we send each other, the digital will never compare to what you can feel in spirit and flesh. We have both been in this community for over 10 years and he has talked to everyone else way longer than me but he keeps mentioning how he could never get a long with anyone very well. They would all brush him off and seemingly not give a shit.

      I have made online friends in the past, its never the same

      you think too much - you developed the logical path for too long

      begin letting go of logical outcomes or procedures and let your subconscious do the work, see what you naturally do and begin travelling down this path (also known as developing the heart and throat chakra)

      it will take a while - just remember to be in a frequency of wanting the best outcomes from yourself and other people

      good luck anon
      t. was once in your shoes

      Chakras don't exist, but as to your point regarding logic I believe I think differently than normal people as a result of my isolation, I would like to think that I'm more emotionally mature and let my actions be governed by reason or logic but it might just be that I don't care about things that the average person does like sports and don't let them govern me

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >chakras don't exist

        just helping you anon, you will soon find out the world is much bigger than you think and your 'emotional matureness' is just nothing but stunted energy pathways you refuse to open up to

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Get a niche hobby like flying remote control hot air balloons.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    In 4 months I made best friends, digitally, with someone who has been in the same game community as me. We understand each other pretty well. But it is disappointing, because until we meet in the flesh, no matter how many pics we send each other, the digital will never compare to what you can feel in spirit and flesh. We have both been in this community for over 10 years and he has talked to everyone else way longer than me but he keeps mentioning how he could never get a long with anyone very well. They would all brush him off and seemingly not give a shit.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you think too much - you developed the logical path for too long

    begin letting go of logical outcomes or procedures and let your subconscious do the work, see what you naturally do and begin travelling down this path (also known as developing the heart and throat chakra)

    it will take a while - just remember to be in a frequency of wanting the best outcomes from yourself and other people

    good luck anon
    t. was once in your shoes

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      the sucking dick chakra

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This should be on /adv/. I don't understand the new standards for /x/ threads.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I made this thread here due to the spiritual connection/connotations, and its better than half the coomer and schizo threads in the catalogue right now. /adv/ is crabs in a bucket

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      There aren't any standards, the mods deleted the sticky that used to be here to show that they were throwing in the towel.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous
    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

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  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Why bother? I used to be like you, until I realized the fruitless efforts and shallow relationships were making me more miserable than if I had just been invisible. Most people nowadays have hopelessly cast themselves into the role of an NPC who lies to themselves that everything is peachy keen, and is suspicious of anyone not wearing a perpetual plastic smile. God forbid anyone pop their little bubble and force them to accept reality for what it is. Between that and the fact most people listen with the intent of replying rather than actually hearing, I am never really interested in others anymore. Just sort of amused or annoyed. I already shave my head, and I have been thinking I should start doing my eyebrows too so I can't look surprised anymore.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    bump

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you will only find other weirdos on the internet unfortunately if my experience means anything. If you want to dip your toes into healthy socializing and normalcy, you can go to a Catholic church and join a young adults group.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If you have to ask it isn't going to happen, if it doesn't come naturally to you it won't come at all.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    go to church
    start lifting
    you will eventually find people to connect with

    >tend to drag my feet with everything
    force yourself, don't think about it

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You dont.

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There's no point connecting to other people when you haven't given yourself time to connect to your own world.
    There are so many people who are associated with serving their own world, and others who are strongly associated with serving others.
    Don't get caught up with people who are here only to serve themselves. They are suffering and they will surely bring you down to an even lower frequency.
    You'll also still have your superior/inferior complex going on around these people no matter whether they're serving themselves or others, so work your own shite out first - maybe you just hate people,.you have an avoidant personality, you're skitzophrenic. Whatever it is, none of them will prevent you from understanding your own world and engaging in that world.

    Just keep reminding yourself that this is Anons world, not Anon surrounded with happy fun friends. If one wants to join your orbit they can, but don't attach to them and don't let them attach to you until you have completely understood your own world.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    My tip to whoever doesn't quite grasp human interaction is to remember that everyone is just another human just like you. And they have their inner workings too. Building acquaintances is all about small talk, maybe asking for a small favor here and there. Building friendships is when that acquaintace have more than just casual local similarity. Maybe similar taste in music, food, or sharing some small thing that brings that together. And a relationship is an exarcebation of that.

    My tip to you? Get yourself out there. Find a community of people that have similar tastes in something you like and start a conversation, join into a discussion, let yourself be heard in a debate. The world is not going to come after you and push you to everyone... you have to do it yourself and sail from there

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've been wondering the same thing for a long time too, I have good conversations with my co workers but they all have lives outside of work and probably wouldn't be interested in being friends, good thing is I'm 20 and going to a community College soooo maybe I'll try my luck there but I have a feeling it still won't work out

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