How do I quit?

Hi Anon, I seriously need your help, now this might not be the place to post this sorta of stuff, but I feel like /x/ has some great people who will actually provide help whenever they can.
Anyways, I just came to the realisation that I am addicted to porno. I used to gaslight myself into thinking that I am not an addict, but I can't do that anymore, I literally am. I won't go too further into details, but I seriously want to stop doing this and to stop sexualising everything cuz the porn effects are hitting.
Got any /x/ advice?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You know the whole two wolfs parable just treat porno as a hungry wolf

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Checked.
      Fpbp.
      Too much truth in a few words, unlike the imbeciles.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    Sure keep that up bud your gonna be making lots of friends and getting laid

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm at a point where I need to actively focus on my sacral region to be able to get turned on by porn if I want to enjoy edging; else watching porn is like watching some boring film and it does nothing. Also 4+ month now into retention.
    The trick is meditation (I know, said here a billion times) but specifically, the passive observation of things with no rejection. So if you get turned on by things and feel the urge the rub one out, just observe the urge and think to yourself, "this is an interesting feeling, it's not bad" and keep a calm breath. You'll start to enjoy the urge with no release, after that you start not to care either way, and after that the urge will go away completely and it will start to take effort on your part to bring it back.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      the first steps in any transformation are the most difficult

      addiction is fairly simple when you break it down, but the addiction will have you complicating it.

      addiction implies some part of you is stuck or in a bind.
      it could be that some other part of you is stressed, or in pain, and you use the short term feel good high to relieve your stress and tension.
      in this situation, i recommend to allow yourself to feel stress and pain. its possible to pride yourself on facing it without running to your feel good mechanisms. eventually you can train yourself to enjoy stress or pain so its no longer working against you.

      sexual energy wants somewhere to go. it's creative energy. if you don't have a partner or outlet for it, it's still going to try to express itself.
      creative outlets may help better direct this energy.
      or simply being able to find a partner, if you're able, to steer that energy.

      sometimes we are just bored, and we used masturbation for stimuli to curb that boredom. being able to find or create stimulating outlets for yourself can help. taking mushroom gummies and drawing.

      you can enjoy self-control. i smoked for half my life. i had no control over my life. i decided to start taking control, and i enjoyed the feeling of being in control. from there, it was more stimulating to me to control that impulse than it was to smoke the cigarette. whenever the impulse would arise, i would imagine myself grabbing the impulse like a squirming snake and pulling this focus back to center. it made me sort of horny being in control too, so it also helped wield my sexual energy in a healthier way.

      could be you just need a change of scenery for awhile as well.

      learn to differentiate when you are fapping because of boredom or too much stimulus to lust provoking images.

      And when you are fapping because you are too horny to think straight or not be a public creepy menace. Masturbation is healthy when done seldomly.

      Firstly, at least it's porn and not something harder to rewire like fricking hard drugs or something even more damaging.

      What you need to do is find out the root cause of your feelings for something. Take moments to find out why you want to behave in certain ways. Jacking off ain't anything to lose your shit on, biologically speaking it's just a mechanism for cleaning out old sperm in a very direct manner. It's also a notorious stress reliever.

      There are a lot of reasons people get hooked on porn, most of it is accessibility based. It's super easy just to google "bobs and vagene" and see more nude bodies than our ancestors could even imagine.

      Try to figure out firstly why you see it as a problem.
      >Is it interrupting your life?
      >Is it too distracting?
      >Is it creating a habitual need where you "cant do anything else" until you get a fix?
      >is it preventing you from good social interactions
      >Is it damaging your mindset on relationships, women, and men in general?

      Then figure out what seems to trigger it:
      >Am I doing this because I'm bored?
      >Am I doing this because I feel ugly?
      >Am I doing this because I want to feel loved?
      >Am I doing this because I was told not to do it?

      What you need to do is de-mystify pornography, approach it from an analytical stance, and envision what you want to fix and GIVE YOURSELF A PURPOSE AS TO WHY or else you'll just rebound.

      Feel free to respond to this post with any questions I'll do my best. I'm not a licensed therapist but I feel like I respect all forms of improvement.

      Don't go cold turkey, take baby steps and do a little less every week, you'll probably relapse more than once, don't sweat it and just pick up right where you left off. You can do it.

      https://i.imgur.com/ooTl3DO.jpg

      Make yourself too busy to j/o or even watch porn.
      Get roommates, travel and stay in a hostel if you have the means, surround yourself with people and things to do/mame it hard to go and hide and goon out in a corner.
      I had a gal today, business, petite, blonde, huge fricking breasts, and, I don't give a shit - she's like 50, and even if she wasn't I want her money not her breasts. But Anon, subconsciously, and consciously, it was hard to maintain eye contact. Really hard. Practice.

      Thanks Anons, I seriously appreciate everything you all told me and starting today I will make a change.
      And also
      >Is it interrupting your life?
      no
      >Is it too distracting?
      yes
      >Is it creating a habitual need where you "cant do anything else" until you get a fix?
      yes
      >is it preventing you from good social interactions
      yes and i think this is like the worst thing about this entire situation
      >Is it damaging your mindset on relationships, women, and men in general?
      yeah..

      Then figure out what seems to trigger it:
      >Am I doing this because I'm bored?
      yes
      >Am I doing this because I feel ugly?
      not really, I admire how I look, I have been putting in a lot of work at the gym and I humbly think I look decent.
      >Am I doing this because I want to feel loved?
      absolutely
      >Am I doing this because I was told not to do it?
      not really.

      Well that is my case anon, I think it is mainly derived from feeling the need to be loved, but I know love can't be forced so I am just waiting I guess, but should I try and do something else?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah go try to learn something that will keep you busy and enjoyable
        For porn addiction games don't work so if you can do sports or something manual that should be good. There are a lot of other options too

        Anons gave you good advice it's on you now

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    the first steps in any transformation are the most difficult

    addiction is fairly simple when you break it down, but the addiction will have you complicating it.

    addiction implies some part of you is stuck or in a bind.
    it could be that some other part of you is stressed, or in pain, and you use the short term feel good high to relieve your stress and tension.
    in this situation, i recommend to allow yourself to feel stress and pain. its possible to pride yourself on facing it without running to your feel good mechanisms. eventually you can train yourself to enjoy stress or pain so its no longer working against you.

    sexual energy wants somewhere to go. it's creative energy. if you don't have a partner or outlet for it, it's still going to try to express itself.
    creative outlets may help better direct this energy.
    or simply being able to find a partner, if you're able, to steer that energy.

    sometimes we are just bored, and we used masturbation for stimuli to curb that boredom. being able to find or create stimulating outlets for yourself can help. taking mushroom gummies and drawing.

    you can enjoy self-control. i smoked for half my life. i had no control over my life. i decided to start taking control, and i enjoyed the feeling of being in control. from there, it was more stimulating to me to control that impulse than it was to smoke the cigarette. whenever the impulse would arise, i would imagine myself grabbing the impulse like a squirming snake and pulling this focus back to center. it made me sort of horny being in control too, so it also helped wield my sexual energy in a healthier way.

    could be you just need a change of scenery for awhile as well.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    learn to differentiate when you are fapping because of boredom or too much stimulus to lust provoking images.

    And when you are fapping because you are too horny to think straight or not be a public creepy menace. Masturbation is healthy when done seldomly.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Firstly, at least it's porn and not something harder to rewire like fricking hard drugs or something even more damaging.

    What you need to do is find out the root cause of your feelings for something. Take moments to find out why you want to behave in certain ways. Jacking off ain't anything to lose your shit on, biologically speaking it's just a mechanism for cleaning out old sperm in a very direct manner. It's also a notorious stress reliever.

    There are a lot of reasons people get hooked on porn, most of it is accessibility based. It's super easy just to google "bobs and vagene" and see more nude bodies than our ancestors could even imagine.

    Try to figure out firstly why you see it as a problem.
    >Is it interrupting your life?
    >Is it too distracting?
    >Is it creating a habitual need where you "cant do anything else" until you get a fix?
    >is it preventing you from good social interactions
    >Is it damaging your mindset on relationships, women, and men in general?

    Then figure out what seems to trigger it:
    >Am I doing this because I'm bored?
    >Am I doing this because I feel ugly?
    >Am I doing this because I want to feel loved?
    >Am I doing this because I was told not to do it?

    What you need to do is de-mystify pornography, approach it from an analytical stance, and envision what you want to fix and GIVE YOURSELF A PURPOSE AS TO WHY or else you'll just rebound.

    Feel free to respond to this post with any questions I'll do my best. I'm not a licensed therapist but I feel like I respect all forms of improvement.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Don't go cold turkey, take baby steps and do a little less every week, you'll probably relapse more than once, don't sweat it and just pick up right where you left off. You can do it.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Make yourself too busy to j/o or even watch porn.
    Get roommates, travel and stay in a hostel if you have the means, surround yourself with people and things to do/mame it hard to go and hide and goon out in a corner.
    I had a gal today, business, petite, blonde, huge fricking breasts, and, I don't give a shit - she's like 50, and even if she wasn't I want her money not her breasts. But Anon, subconsciously, and consciously, it was hard to maintain eye contact. Really hard. Practice.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This, you need to fill the time first and formost, if you just exchange porn for sitting on your hands, your hands will find their way to your dick.
      At the end of the day beating an addiction comes down to really making the choice to change, there's the day my daughter came home i quit drugs and alcohol on the spot after being high every day for over a decade, it was fricking easy even though previous attempts it felt impossible to kick. Commit to the change.

      Now, all that under your belt, it's time to talk behaviour change science, first thing to understand is that you've already started the proccess, this phase is called contemplation, and it's a very important step. The next is called preparation, fairly self explanatory, and then action, which is also fairly intuitive. After you hit action you're looking at life without yor vice getting gradually easier over the first 6 months, after that you're not stuck however you are, but what that does mean is most people are more or less considered as a success in behaviour change and continued adoption of new behaviour generally sticks, before that addictions and bad habbits are much more likely to relapse and/or return. Commit to 6 months of hard work on yourself, whether that means cold turkey, or just a dramatic difference. You aren't done after that, but you should be in the seing of things. After that it's more about maintenance and avoiding relapse.

      In terms of goals, it's best to set a long term goal that in your general goal, then construct medium and short term goals that are a plan of action to achieve that goal, an example for this might be
      >long term; lose fat gain muscle in one year
      >short term; work out 3 days every week
      >medium term; add progressions to workout plan each week
      Ofc you want a no porn version of this. These goals should be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic(with respect to your own circumstance) and timely(as in you can realistically achieve them within your set timeframe)

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Cont.
        That's the SMART goal framework, simple but effective.
        To go with all of this, keep one more thing in mind, motivation is great to get you started making a big change, but it's terrible for long term success, because it's fleeting, discipline and dedication are where you want to focus if you intend to stick it out, as i said earlier, above all you need to commit to change.
        Good luck OP, i hope you manage to better yourself.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Thanks Anon, I will start making my goals according to the example you have given.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    admit that youre lonely and realize you dont have to tell anybody about being an "addict" in this main character ass put each other in boxes society

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Talk to girls when you are honry. Like fire up whatever social app and brute force write b***hes. Tell them whatever horny ideas you have with them. I did this because I was horny as frick but porn was too boring. Now I have gf.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

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    I already tried helping the other dumb frog poster but he's a lost cause.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just turn off your computer/phone/whatever and use your imagination instead, that's it, that's the trick

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There is real good way to get raid of fapping in this thread, but if it don't work and you don't know what to do, you can try visual no-fap therapy

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    After a year of not watching porno neither fapping, last week I spent a night watching hardcore. The feeling that I got was of pity, not for me but for the people participating on those videos. It is al falsehood and directed especifically to get your attention and urges.

    For you anon, you already know how to quit, its up to you to get the strenght to go through. The only truth I can share is that having control of oneself and of your energies is trully a bliss.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    definitely bordering an addiction towards porn so op I'll give my opinion.

    real sex scared the frick out of me. it's easier to watch through a screen. it's easier to confront my attraction to women, too. it's so quick and easy.
    real sex is excruciatingly long. it's awkward. all the feelings you feel within those 10 minutes are spread across tiny intervals for at least 30 minutes, even if you cum fast because you gotta wait to recharge. if you try to go faster without having gone through that learning curve, they know. immediately. women in porn moaning louder than the guy when the guy is feeling the most? what the frick is that supposed to be, equilibrium?
    porn won't show you. you're parents won't tell you. your friends were only there for half of it. even well meaning sex educators sterilize somewhat.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      ok let me talk about this more cause im also an ex opiate addict.
      there's a huge money making system in trying to cure addiction. Charlie sheen when he was in the process of trying to quit drugs hated AA and religious systems. in the end he just stopped using drugs.
      it's really not a redirection of energy, its oblivion. drugs were there, now they are gone. porn was here, now it's gone. it is sad.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Start thinking of porn as a virus and do your best to keep your mind clean of it. Whenever you see or think of something triggering you to watch more just clear your mind, restart a new fresh idea and let it grow. It's not easy in the beginning you have to rewire your mind in a way. We all have the power to change, just don't give in brother. I believe in you

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    actionable steps:

    1. cut out meat, dairy, onions and garlic (and any other aphrodisiac) - but do eat them once a month or so. be practically vegetarian, supplement B12.

    2. practice watching your thoughts, after enough time, you will acquire power over how much energy you dedicate to thoughts. you will also realize that thinking is not what you do, but it is what happens to you, because once you decide to watch, you will notice the arising of thoughts out of nowhere. so when a random thought comes, of any sort (lustful or not), you can instantly decide if you are gonna pour energy in or not

    3. practice mental hygiene. divert your eyes, do not look at women, minimize your interaction to bare minimum.

    4. police your speech. do not use sexual innuendo or sexual words.

    there is going to be one big change if you manage to succeed: you will live life in easy mode. people in the SR/nofap communities do not know why this happens, but i think its due to your hormonal system balancing / aligning such that you can not be depressed anymore and no negative event can bring you down. i cant explain it otherwise.. sadly, there is more to it, it appears that only positive things happen to you. perhaps its some sort of perception bias, as you become immune to negativity, you dont perceive it as strongly anymore. you have a positivity bias. i dont know. you could also call it supernatural, who cares...
    but i do know that this is what happens.
    so its totally worth it.

    cooming is cuckery. you cuck yourself from the joys of life.

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Exercise or doing manual labor will take away your sex drive. That's the point of testosterone, make people, do work. Being a neet means there is no outlet for this. It's normal to have the urge but you need an outlet if you don't want it to be the only thing in your life.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Quitting porn is really easy, because you're not addicted to porn, you're addicted to fapping+porn.
    All you need to do is to detach them, watch porn without fapping, and fap without watching porn, and the addiction will go away... in about 3 weeks.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You need to become aware of your triggers and avoid them. Some boards are more prone to sexual imagery, so limit your time there.

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